Some of us are really lucky to have self-aware parents. It’s a blessing to be raised by people who never tried to overcompensate for their unhappy lives by putting you down as a kid… I don’t blame anybody, we are all human beings, we do mess up, it is natural. However, a lot of times lack of awareness in our parents (and lack of our own awareness for that matter!) leads to difficulties in relationships and separation.
Sometimes you may experience misunderstanding; they may try to force their opinions on you, which may be pretty annoying, especially if you are already a grown-up. You will always be a baby for them. And even in the most difficult cases of complicated relationships, your parents’ only wish is for you to be the happiest person on Earth. They keep you in their thoughts more often than you think. And every single time they feel love for you, it’s delivered right to you.
You may not feel it, while they are around or on another continent. It’s so subtle, but it’s there. It appears in our lives as strength, faith in yourself, protection, high self-esteem. I am not saying you can’t get credit for all those, but often those are just free gifts that keep you going all the time…
And you definitely start feeling it, when it’s gone. When our parents or those who loved us pass away, we immediately feel the lack of what they were sending us. Of course, I am not talking about the situations when our parents have any mental disorders; of course it’s a different story. But if your parents just normal people, even if you had a fight, they will still send you love and support. FREE, just because you exist.
We all are connected, but the closest connection is always with people who love us or whom we love. In a way, we are them, and they are us. You and them are like a system, connected vessels. Your parents are a generator of pure love that you receive. When you are upset at them you receiver doesn’t work that well anymore, and you may not get all the love they are sending. It’s as if you shut down for them. Very much like you would be saying – I am annoyed, that’s why I will cut my air supply… Now, why would you do this?
Do not stay mad at your parents… Forgive them everything. No matter what, you will go your way anyway. But for their sake and for love they give you forgiving anything is such a little price… Be grateful. Communicate with them from that feeling of gratefulness. And you will have a completely different experience in your relationship with them.
And if every time you tell them I love you, you will get even more from them, because it’s all they want to hear…
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