Some of us are truly lucky to have self-aware parents. It’s a blessing to be raised by people who never tried to overcompensate for their own unhappy lives by putting you down as a child. I don’t blame anyone — we are all human, and it’s natural to make mistakes. However, many times a lack of awareness in our parents (and sometimes in ourselves) creates difficulties in relationships and feelings of separation.
You may sometimes experience misunderstanding; your parents might try to force their opinions on you, which can be especially frustrating if you’re already an adult. To them, you will always be their child. Even in the most complicated relationships, their deepest wish is for you to be the happiest person alive. They think of you more often than you realize, and every time they feel love for you, that love is sent your way.
You might not always feel this love while they are near or even when they are far away, but it is there. It shows up in our lives as strength, faith in ourselves, protection, and high self-esteem. These qualities may seem like things you’ve earned on your own, but often they are free gifts that sustain you constantly.
And you especially feel it when it’s gone. When our parents or loved ones pass away, we immediately sense the absence of what they were sending us. Of course, this is not the case if a parent struggles with mental illness — that’s a different story. But if your parents were just normal people, even if you had fights or disagreements, they still send you love and support simply because you exist.
We are all connected, but the closest connections are with those we love or who love us. In a way, we are reflections of each other. You and your parents are like connected vessels, part of a system. Your parents act as a generator of pure love that flows to you. When you’re upset at them, your receiver doesn’t work as well, and you might miss out on the love they are sending. It’s like shutting down your own air supply out of frustration — why would you do that?
Don’t stay mad at your parents. Forgive them everything. No matter what, you will follow your own path anyway. But for their sake and for the love they give you, forgiving them is such a small price to pay. Be grateful. Communicate from a place of gratitude. When you do, your relationship with them will transform completely.
And every time you tell them “I love you,” you will receive even more love in return — because that is all they want to hear.
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