You wake up, do your normal humdrum routine, coffee or tea, emails, maybe a workout, maybe a scroll, and everything seems fine, on the surface. But inside, there’s this strange quiet, an unpleasant stillness. Not pain, not sadness, just a kind of comfortable nothingness. And if you didn’t have any sort of reflection, you could easily live like that your whole life, without ever asking the question that aches in your soul, where is the joy in all of it?
If this is what you’ve been going through, this video is for you. Because usually, when I go to sleep, I imagine the things, the experiences, the feelings, I want to feel in life. And a lot of times, I get these inspired ideas through this practice. So last night, as I was falling asleep, I had this idea: which desire did you give up on? And something in that question lit me up. I knew I wanted to turn it into an exercise and share it with you.
Here’s why I’m so excited about this. Our desires, they’re the fuel of our lives. I truly believe that. They’re what keep us alive inside. They give us energy, they give us courage, they move us forward. And while some desires shift as we grow, others, core desires, never go away. Like the desire for love. The desire for intimacy. For connection. For purpose. For fulfillment. These live deep inside us, and when they’re not fulfilled, they don’t disappear. They just ache. Quietly. Consistently.
So I made this exercise for myself, but I’m sharing it with you too. Because maybe you’ve had a desire, one that mattered, that you gave up on. And maybe, just maybe, it’s time to bring it back to life.
You’ll need something to write with. Pen and paper, or device and stylus, whatever works. But don’t just think it. Write it. Make it real.
Step one: Write your desire as if it already came true. And then, list at least three things that matter to you about that desire. Why do they matter? What do they say about you? Why are they important? Write it down. Pause this video if you need to. I’ll be right here when you’re ready.
Step two: Ask yourself, what if this desire never comes true? What happens to your life? How does it affect you over time? How would it feel to carry that emptiness with you, quietly, for the rest of your life? Be honest. It’s okay if it brings up sadness or grief. These feelings hold information.
Step three: Go back to the vision of your desire fulfilled. Read it again, feel it in your body. What’s different now? What shifts in you? Do you feel joy? Aliveness? Relief? Peace? Whatever comes up, write it down. You need to see it.
Now close your eyes and imagine this fulfilled life. Breathe it in. If it brings you a sense of joy, peace, love, relief, then this desire is essential for your vitality. You didn’t truly give up on it. It still lives inside you. So if you’ve been telling yourself it’s gone, that’s not the truth. What happened is that somewhere inside, a belief took root, a belief that told you this can’t happen for you. That it’s not possible. That it’s not for you.
But that belief is a lie. The very fact that you have this desire means it’s part of your path. You can have it. You can create it. You can feel it. It’s yours.
When I did this kind of work for myself, I found a path back to my own fire. My own self-worth. My own “I know this is mine, and I’m going to go for it.” And now, I want to help you do the same.
So, if this resonated, I created a free workbook called the Limitless Beliefs. It’s simple, it’s clear, and it’ll help you reconnect with those parts of yourself that are still alive, even if they’ve gone quiet.
Download the workbook. The link is in the description.
You can bring your joy back even if it feels like it’s too late. It’s never too late while we are alive.
Let’s do this together.
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