What does “freeing up space” mean? It’s thinking in physical terms and applying that perception system to a sphere that’s nonlinear and not three-dimensional. The realm of feelings, experiences, and personality is a tangled, multidimensional knot with the fourth dimension of time, as our consciousness doesn’t perceive life and ourselves in this life outside of time and constantly travels to the past and future, often avoiding the present.
So, “freeing up space” is too primitive of a description, but overall, if we take physical three-dimensional concepts, it might somewhat fit. However, what does it replace? Everything listed – it stopped being a source of tension and became a source of joy. Both are capable of expanding consciousness, giving it the ability to believe in more, in better, in greater possibilities. Isn’t that “freeing up space”?
I believe pain never goes away; it always exists in the time where it was experienced. We just re-experience it, constantly revisiting it in our thoughts, hence there’s “no space” for anything new. Moreover, we regularly heap the responsibility for our present experiences of that past pain onto those somehow associated with causing that pain in the past, which strengthens and intensifies the connections between the present and the past, where it hurt.
It’s impossible to “work through” the past, the past pain. One can, by returning to it, realize that it’s in the past and has no bearing on the present. If that’s what “working through” and “letting go” mean, then yes. But nothing is let go forever; nothing disappears.
The essence lies in reprogramming one’s reaction to these neural connections. Change one’s attitude toward them. Even while feeling and re-experiencing this pain, even to the same extent as in the past, realize that it’s the past, that it’s “phantom” pain, that it has no relation to the present. That’s where the liberation lies. And it may never end. A person may return to that painful moment throughout their life if it’s deeply ingrained, and liberation lies in realizing each time that it’s the past and is unrelated to the present.
But, from my observations, the more a person realizes and consciously severs the connection between past pain and their present, the less they feel the need to return and relive that pain, the less they go there, and this might be called “letting go,” perhaps.
One just needs to understand that miracles won’t happen. Nothing will ever go away forever. But one can move forward oneself, stop traveling into the past. And while journeying, stop hurting now about what was then.
The rest (the first two points) is from the realm of beliefs. And here, I’m convinced that a person always experiences in life most acutely and closely whatever aligns with and corresponds to their beliefs. Beliefs can be chosen, one can learn to choose beliefs. That’s it. Our problem is that we build our beliefs on conclusions we made in the past when we experienced pain. Since we regularly reinforce the connection between the past and that pain with the present, our present beliefs seem not ours at all, but rather belong to that child we were raised as. That’s all. Once the connection (with a conscious approach) to that past pain starts to weaken, it’ll be easier to craft new beliefs, with iridescent buttons.
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