Osho once elaborated quite well in one of his books (and it’s known that most, if not all, of his books are nothing but transcripts of his speeches) about how “The giver should be grateful.” He gave an example of a rich man who brought a bag of money to some guru. The guru accepted the bag and said nothing. The rich man, kind of indignant, said, “I brought you a bag of money, and you didn’t even say thank you?” To this, the guru replied that it’s you, the fool, who should thank me for even accepting these money from you. Well, and so on, all in that spirit. The giver should be grateful.
On one hand, of course, I agree. The giver should be grateful for the acceptance of his gifts, his offerings, because there’s nothing more hurtful than when what you give is rejected. And it’s not even about hurt. It’s not hurtful. What hurt… Pity the offended. It’s very painful and lonely when something you offer is not wanted.
You can, of course, say screw it and retreat into yourself. And say “don’t want it – don’t need it.” “I’m fine as it is.” “And I didn’t even want you to feel hurt by giving you something.”
But, in reality, it is painful. When your gifts are not accepted. And here’s why. Any gifts (of course, except those given out of calculation) – are essentially a part of a person’s soul, a piece of themselves they want to pass on to another person in the gift. It’s when from the heart – with a piece of that heart. That’s why gifts. It’s precisely because people want to share their love.
The rejection of this love – that’s what’s painful. When your gifts – your love – are not accepted, – that’s what’s painful. And I agree that the giver should be grateful.
But the receiver should be doubly grateful.
Simply because it’s insanely precious when someone wants to give you love. In any form whatsoever.
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