Energy Vampires: How to Identify and Deal with Them
Have you ever noticed those energy vampires around you? They can be beautiful, intelligent, interesting, and charming. In fact, they usually are. Because if they weren’t, we wouldn’t get caught in their enchanting webs. How we get caught isn’t the point: it’s easier to capture an unprepared person than to keep them. Then, the most interesting part begins.
These vampires lull your vigilance, diverting your attention from their depths to the shiny pebbles on the surface, stroking and buttering you up where necessary. Alongside this process, they study and identify your weak (and strong!) spots to understand where they can drink from safely. Meanwhile, the vampire is already sipping energy—attention, admiration, praise, and high esteem. But these are just the first drops. The main course is still ahead. The victim feels great because they are charmed and given the privilege to touch the enchanting [illusory] world that our vampire friend creates. It’s worth mentioning that they are quite the illusionists. They need illusions to lure the victim into their web, from which there is no escape, but where the bloodthirsty creatures can painlessly latch onto their prey completely, paralyzing their will.
As the victim gets stuck in the sticky vampire web, they begin to feel less enchanted and more uncomfortable. It’s understandable—the life force is dwindling, and the pressure is increasing. The interaction subtly transforms into continuous pressure on the weak spots, where the vital energy—the vampire’s food—seeps out. Occasionally, the victim gets a chance to catch a breath of fresh air, only to realize they are voluntarily sitting in the sticky web and don’t want to leave it [flying away is no longer an option, as there’s no strength left].
These “web” schemes are typically used by individuals with low self-esteem, unable to create, possessing just enough intellectual abilities to find a way to drag the victim into the web and locate the sore spots to extract food. Often, the vampire’s face is hidden under the mask of a charming person, seemingly loved and respected by all. Even if not, they know how to instill such an opinion about themselves. Usually, those who suffer from vampirism are those who are not ready to give because they have nothing to give—beings on the lower rungs of spiritual development, pimply teenagers seeking self-affirmation, and adults bitter at the world due to their own inadequacies.
These creatures look for a trusting, open, and unprotected victim or someone who has lost control over their life situation for some reason—someone who is easy prey. They can’t handle strong people—their guts aren’t thick enough. But they need to feed somehow. They don’t want to create anything; they want to lie belly up and demand that everything be brought to them. The most they are capable of, and the reason they bother to get up, is to catch a new victim.
The development of events in such relationships can follow three paths.
The First Path: The Unaware Victim
The victim is so weak that they don’t understand what’s happening. They think they are getting attached [sticking to the web], perceiving the painful relationship as a consequence of their own imperfections, trying their best to change to please the bloodthirsty “master.” This symbiosis can last quite a long time, even a lifetime. If the vampire is a gourmet and demands fresh blood, they leave the victim half-dead as soon as they have drained the tastiest parts and lost interest. Recovery after such relationships can take from several weeks to decades.
The Second Path: The Semi-Aware Victim
The victim senses that something is wrong but still doesn’t understand what’s happening. They analyze their attachment and participation in the process, as well as the role of their “consumer.” Without fully grasping the situation, they are wise enough to listen to their feelings and reject the exhausting relationship. During these periods, the vampire loses their power over them and, feeling that the food is slipping away, desperately tries to bring them back through sensuality, logic, and the tried-and-tested method of illusions. The outcome depends on the vampire’s preparedness and the victim’s ingenuity (and luck). If the victim finds a moment to escape the vampire’s grasp and the vampire fails to reattach them, they may gain enough strength not to return. There could also be a situation where the victim keeps breaking free and coming back—rarely on their own, more often at the vampire’s will. Power is a corrupting force. “Power corrupts. Absolute power corrupts absolutely.” (c) Once someone experiences power, they rarely want to lose it. And we have plenty of masochists. Maybe some even enjoy belonging to a charming bloodsucker. Anything can happen.
The Third Path: The Strong, Creative Victim
The victim may be a strong, intelligent, creative person, but overly sentimental or possessing certain weaknesses or dependencies. We all have our flaws. Catching such a person, the vampire enjoys them particularly because their energy flows with rainbow colors and is extremely nourishing. It’s like a small spider catching a sparrow instead of a fly. The blood is fantastic! Not like a stinky fly. This is a free bird, a singing bird… Such mistakes are made only by inexperienced vampires because a bird can easily devour a spider. It may not be very tasty, and the spider is slippery, but who cares. For a while, the bird listens to the vampire’s sweet singing until it realizes that it’s being sucked dry. The bird tries to fly, but the web holds tight.
The spider falls off and starts singing praises to the bird again to keep it listening. “Vanity is definitely one of my favorite sins.” (c) This continues until the bird understands it’s being eaten. Then what does it do? It simply breaks the silly web and rises into the sky. Yes, the wounds bleed, but the spider’s bites are not dangerous. There are far greater dangers in the sky. The bird flies away forever, leaving the vampire in total bewilderment. The vampire has grown attached to the sweet bird blood. They can’t imagine other food anymore and don’t want to go back to flies. They start longing for the sparrow, chasing new sparrows, but luck is no longer on their side. They start starving, cursing the sparrow, trying to prick it from afar for a drop of its life-giving blood. But no luck. The moment is lost. The vampire is screwed, as was to be expected.
Eventually, the vampire returns to their fly diet. But they’ll always remember the silver bird, trying to lure it back into their web whenever it gets close. They’ll offer to just be friends, asking for nothing in return, hoping to weaken the bird’s vigilance. But this will be a futile effort.
How to Deal with a Vampire
The key to dealing with a vampire is to recognize them in time and transform from a fly into a sparrow. Or better yet, become an elephant from the start.
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